Payton Reed

Save the Dates

Payton Reed
Save the Dates

Time to plan

If you're planning a wedding, it is easy to get excited about all of the fun details. Things like a reception exit, cake flavors, ceremony music, a wedding dress and rehearsal dinner food are the first fun things that come to my mind. What I did not get excited about, however, was creating a card and collecting addresses to send save the dates. I am decently organized but I learned a lot of tips and tricks along the way to help with creating a card, collecting addresses and then stamping, sealing and addressing them. If you need a little direction in this department, look no further.

Creating a Card

This can actually be super time consuming. It is so overwhelming to get on a website and see all of the templates. I am naturally the most indecisive person ever, so this was a serious struggle bus moment for me. I used WeddingWire to get inspiration from real couples. This was beyond helpful since I literally can never make up my mind.

If you are interested in using a pre-made template, a few websites you could try are... Shutterfly, Vistaprint and Minted.

To be honest, I found that all of these website were super overpriced. Their products are great quality and really beautiful, but I was not interested in spending $700+ on save the dates (and that was before postage!). So I decided to explore other options. I found an example of a card that I liked on WeddingWire and decided to recreate it and tweak it a little bit on my own. I used to design my own cards and then printed them locally. I spent $250 on cards and envelopes. I SAVED $500 BY MAKING MY OWN CARDS. I can not recommend this enough. If you aren't sure how to do it, reach out to me and I will be happy to walk you through it. Since I saved that money, I am using it to make a DIY backdrop for photos for my guests at the reception! Score.

What to Include

Obviously you're going to put a hella cute picture of you and your bae on your card, but what else needs to be included? Here's a quick checklist:

  • Your name and his name (We chose first names only to be more casual.)
  • The date (duh, but it has to be said)
  • The location (You don't need to put the actual ceremony venue since that will be in the formal invite, so just include the city and state)
  • Some form of "formal invitation to follow" so that people know to expect a legit invite with venues and dates


  • Your wedding website
  • The words "Save the Date" (They are cute but obviously it is a save the date so you don't have to put it if you don't want to or don't have room!)

Collecting Addresses

Blah. This part kinda stinks no matter how you do it. It is a time consuming hassle but it's also awesome because it means the big day is getting closer! Hunter and I used to collect addresses. You can send a link in a text message or email to your friends and family and they can enter their contact information themselves and it uploads to your digital address book. This way, you can access it from anywhere at any time and important details don't get lost in translation. You can get $5 off any order over $20 on postable when you use the code: MR8ACVIWLS. They also have save the date cards, so you can browse those too!

For older friends and family members who may not like to use Postable, we created a google doc that we shared between Hunter, my mom, his mom and me. We would search white pages and then manually enter their addresses, only reaching out to guests if we needed to. This was a good way to collaborate on collecting info. 

Who Gets a Plus One?

This is where it gets confusing. I wish that I could let every single person I am inviting bring a date! That would be awesome. Like one giant college throwback date party amiright?? But unfortunately you have to draw a line or else your expenses will double and be through the roof! I tried to give plus ones to all of my friends who have significant others that I know personally. Other people who got plus ones are my best childhood and college friends and everyone in my wedding party, regardless of their relationship status. Everyone has a different way of handling plus ones, but since we have a rather large guest list, this is the way I decided to do it!

Googles *How to address envelope*

Since a save the date is a more casual form of an invitation there are several ways you can do it (or so I read!). If I was inviting an entire family, I just wrote "The Allen Family", whereas on the legitimate invitations I would write: "Mr. and Mrs. Michael David Allen, Wyatt and Avery." I did write couples names in a more formal way. Instead of saying "Shelby and Kyle McCullouch" I wrote "Mr. and Mrs. Kyle McCullouch" but again, this is a matter of preference for save the dates. Real invitations should be much more formal and uniform, though!


Sealing and Stamping

Tbh, I have no tricks for this other than making your fiance participate. I addressed each envelope and Hunter stuffed them all. We had a little assembly system going with damp rags to seal each envelope. I definitely suggest ordering extra envelopes. I probably messed up around 50+ envelopes because my inner perfectionist was coming out. Disclaimer: This takes hours and hours if you have a large guest list. A bottle of wine and a box of pizza (don't get grease on the cards- I made that mistake) are a necessity. 



I hope you don't need help with this part...but the last thing you need to do is drop those suckers off at the post office! I alphabetized mine before mailing so that I could go back through and double check them easily, and I am certain I still missed a few people and will be sending more out sporadically over the next few days! But overall, I can check save the dates off my list and hopefully, with the help of this post, you can too!

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